Emptying the Nest: Launching Your Young Adult Toward Success and Self-Reliance


"Dr. Sachsí wonderful book, EMPTYING THE NEST, is a compelling blend of valuable insights, innovative advice, and much needed "loving accountability" for young adults and their families. This book is a "must have" for every parent seeking to foster not only self pride and independence for their adolescent/emerging adult, but for themselves as well."
-Jeffrey Bernstein, Ph.D., Child and Family Psychologist and author of 10 DAYS TO LESS DEFIANT CHILD

"In EMPTYING THE NEST, Brad Sachs once again insightfully maps out the challenging terrain of contemporary parenthood. Skillfully and gently, he leads readers through the complex choreography required not only to help young adults achieve the well-documented need for healthy separation and self-sufficiency, but also to help them cultivate what is often overlooked--that a life well-lived must have significance and meaning. Practical and compassionate, innovative and empathic, this book provides parents with the necessary tools to finish the job right. EMPTYING THE NEST will help empower family members of two generations to evolve into the next stage of development, growing towards a new and deeper maturity."
-Madeline Levine, Ph.D, author of THE PRICE OF PRIVILEGE

"Finally a book with wise, clear and do-able advice for parents not only as their children emerge into adulthood, but also for the parents themselves as they themselves emerge from the responsibilities of the nest into a new stage of their own lives."
-Ruth Nemzoff, author of DONíT BITE YOUR TONGUE

"Brad Sachs has produced an excellent book that captures the obstacles, challenges, and joys of helping young adults achieve independence Ö a wonderful resource for parents and professionals alike."
-Robert Brooks, Ph.D. Faculty, Harvard Medical School and co-author of RAISING RESILIENT CHILDREN

"Finally, thereís a timely book that thoughtfully addresses the dilemmas plaguing parents and their Ďnot ready for prime timeí young adults who wonít or canít leave home. In EMPTYING THE NEST, family psychologist Brad Sachs zeroes in on the parent/grown child issues which interfere with a healthy and self-assured departure. With piercing insight, compassion, and a measure of firmness, Sachs helps us to chart the course for the modern young adultís march towards independence and maturity. Beautifully written, informative, and filled with vivid real-life vignettes, itís a must read for all parents concerned about their childís lingering, and their own difficulty letting go."
-Neil Bernstein, Ph.D., parenting expert and author of THERE WHEN HE NEEDS YOU

"For almost three decades, family psychologist Brad Sachs has written about parents and children with wit, warmth, and wisdom. In his newest and much-needed volume, EMPTYING THE NEST, he offers us unique insight and realistic counsel when it comes to addressing the dilemmas and conflicts that arise when young adults have returned to their parentsí home, or are having difficulty leaving. With an unwavering focus on the reciprocal needs of parent and young adult, Sachs reassuringly guides readers through the last stage of hands-on parenthood with a generous helping of care, candor, and sensitivity."
-Jerrold Lee Shapiro, Ph.D., Professor at Santa Clara University and author of THE MEASURE OF A MAN

"This beautifully written book is abundant with useful concrete advice and insights. With specific suggestions for defusing chronic family impasses, Sachs provides a roadmap to family resolution that will benefit parents and children. Therapists will find the numerous case examples especially helpful in understanding how to work with families whose offspring cannot quite make it out the door to adulthood."
-Geoffrey Greif, DSW, Professor of Social Work, University of Maryland

"This book is filled with sensible advice for parents of emerging adults. Drawing on his many years of experience treating young adults and their families, Sachs presents their stories with insights that will surely help others through this eventful and sometimes difficult time of life."
-Jeffrey Jensen Arnett, Ph.D., Clark University, author of EMERGING ADULTHOOD

"Young adulthood has become a perilous journey of late, filled with detours and dead ends that leave all too many young people side-tracked. EMPTYING THE NEST by Brad Sachs provides a compassionate, thoughtful roadmap toward a successful adulthood that is likely to be useful not only to parents, but to young adults themselves. The book is chock full of compelling stories documenting both the detours and the successful the paths to young adulthood. It provides guidance not only for emptying the nest, but for sending our youth off on a successful flight toward a fulfilling adulthood."


The Good Enough Child: How to Have an Imperfect Family and be Perfectly Satisfied

"A compassionate, forgiving, wise book that is also eye-opening. If you read only one book on parenting and family life, make it this one."
-Dr. Sam Osherson, author of FINDING OUR FATHERS

"Dr. Sachs' book is a rich blend of good sense, humor, and clinical wisdom that shows how we can learn to love our children, as they are, and in the process learn to love ourselves."
-Alvin Rosenfeld, M.D., co-author of THE OVER-SCHEDULED CHILD

"A really good book on turning the war between parents and children into a mutually nourishing relationship."
-Rabbi Harold Kushner, author of WHEN BAD THINGS HAPPEN TO GOOD PEOPLE

"Brad Sachs has written more than a good-enough book; he has created a totally engaging 'must read' for any mother or father..."
-Diane Ehrensaft, Ph.D., author of SPOILING CHILDHOOD

"No one writes about the miraculous complexity of family life better than Dr. Brad Sachs. The book is funny, conversational, insightful, wise. I'm a better parent because of it."
-Roberta Israeloff, author of KINDLING THE FLAME

"Brad Sachs has told parents what they've been longing to hear: Their children don't have to be perfect. This book should to much to defuse the unnecessary pressure on families today."
-Marguerite Kelly, syndicated columnist and co-author of THE MOTHERS' ALMANAC

"If the parents of my patients heeded the advice in Dr. Sachs' hopeful and helpful book their children might not need me. I wish my own parents could have read it."
-Jeanne Safer, Ph.D., author of FORGIVING AND NOT FORGIVING

"...a far better than "good enough" book to help parents in raising their kids."
-Lawrence H. Diller, M.D., author of RUNNING ON RITALIN

"This wise book will greatly enhance the parenting efforts of parents of children of all ages."
-Dr. Judith Mishne, Shirley M. Ehrenkranz School of Social Work, New York University and author of THE LEARNING CURVE

"THE GOOD ENOUGH CHILD stands out amongst the glut of simplistic parenting guides as a wise, eloquent and valuable book that will be infinitely helpful and reassuring to parents."
-Nancy Samalin, M.S., author of LOVE AND ANGER, THE PARENTAL DILEMMA

"This empathetic and well-written, functional book is full of very good advice for all parents and is solidly based on the author's long experience in the psychological care of parents and children."
-Dr. H. Paul Gabriel, Clinical Professor of Psychiatry, New York University Medical School and author of ANTICIPATING ADOLESCENCE

"With wisdom, warmth, and wit, Brad Sachs puts the fun back into parenting, giving us the courage we need to abandon our Quixotic quest and the confidence to recognize that sometimes being human is better than being perfect."
-Armin A. Brott, author of THE EXPECTANT FATHER and THE NEW FATHER

"In THE GOOD ENOUGH CHILD, parents are given sage advice for combating a panoply of unrealistic pressures they are likely to encounter in raising children. This is a warm, personal, and engaging book."
-Charles E. Schaefer, Ph.D., author of HOW TO HELP CHILDREN WITH COMMON PROBLEMS

"In THE GOOD ENOUGH CHILD, Dr. Brad Sachs brings compassion, sensitivity, love and sanity to the whole business of child-rearing and successful family life."
-Jerrold Lee Shapiro, Ph.D., author of THE MEASURE OF A MAN

"Entertaining and thought-provoking... a wonderful guide to help us accept our children and ourselves for the flawed but loving and loveable people we are."
-Martha B. Straus, Ph.D., Clinical Associate and Instructor, Dartmouth Medical School, author of NO-TALK THERAPY FOR CHILDREN AND ADOLESCENTS.

"Brad Sachs has an uncanny appreciation for the uniquely difficult job that parenting has become in contemporary America."
-Rabbi Daniel Gordis, author of BECOMING A JEWISH PARENT

"Brad Sachs writes with uncommonly good sense. Here he teaches the hardest and most important lesson of parenthood: how to let go of false expectations and embrace your children for who they are."
-Michael P. Nichols, Ph.D., author of THE LOST ART OF LISTENING

"By giving parents important new insights into why their kids might do what they do, Brad Sachs also gives parents important new insights into how to better appreciate them too."
-Myrna B. Shure, Ph.D., author of RAISING A THINKING PRETEEN

"Required reading for those of us burdening ourselves with the myth of the perfect world."
-Terry Hargrave, Ph.D., author of FAMILIES AND FORGIVENESS

"Brad Sachs has written a much needed, cautionary book."
-Olga Silverstein, MSW, author of THE COURAGE TO RAISE GOOD MEN

"As soon as I looked at the title I thought, 'YES!' Someone wants parents to stop punishing themselves and their child because that child IS a child and isn't perfect and is not SUPPOSED to be perfect! I intend to recommend it to others-because I know it will help a lot of parents..."

"A thoughtful, intelligently written, yet readable book with much wisdom and insight to offer on parenting, family life, and marriage... an extremely valuable perspective."
-Ross W. Greene, Ph.D., Harvard Medical School, and author of THE EXPLOSIVE CHILD

"...a breath of fresh air... Dr Sachs' extensive clinical experiences and sound comprehension of development have produced a sensitive and sensible book that can help both parents and kids get off to the right start."

"A truly remarkable book. In a masterful, well-written, compassionate way, Dr. Sachs not only provides a wealth of information about parenting skills, but does so within a framework that helps parents to learn to accept their own strengths and vulnerabilities as well as those of their children."
-Dr. Robert Brooks, Faculty, Harvard Medical School, co-author of RAISING RESILIENT CHILDREN and author of THE SELF-ESTEEM TEACHER